Recently I attended a leadership lunch for work. It was decent: food was good, anywhere is Santa Barbara is nice, and I got to play giant Jenga (which was awesome, by the way). Anyway, I started reading a book today that reminded me about something the speaker had said at the lunch.
As preparation for the lunch, we took these leadership personality tests. Mine came out mostly blue and yellow, which meant I'm a people person, like to work in groups, performs well with clearly defined tasks, etc. The speaker equated this with not following the Golden Rule. He said the Golden Rule doesn’t apply in the work situation because everyone is so different, you can’t possibly treat everyone as you’d treat yourself. This is not true. The speaker misunderstood the Golden Rule as something microscopic, when it is macroscopic in nature. I’d argue that by taking the personality tests to assist each other in understanding each other and how each of us enjoys our work-space, it is exactly following the Golden Rule.
So what is the Golden Rule? Every religion has some form of it. Basically, it is treat others the way you’d like to be treated. In Christianity, this is one of two of the greatest commandments. The first, to remember our spiritual nature. The second, to love your neighbor as yourself. Christ said this sums up the law.
To apply this to the leadership lunch, it is by respecting each others differences that we follow the Golden Rule. By having enough consideration to learn about each other, that is the Golden Rule. In Christianity, the Golden Rule honors our spirit and is thus (two in one) the greatest commandment. The flip-side of that is the greatest sin.
I just started reading the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is a must-read book for everyone. In the first agreement, Ruiz discusses how to be impeccable with our word. When we speak ill to or about each other, we are spreading our own personal poison to that person. If they accept it, i.e. agree with it, it places their state of mind in a darker place, in a false reality or false perception of the world around us.
It got me thinking about the Golden Rule. The message is similar. Treat each other with love, respect, honoring our Spirit—to be impeccable with our word. By doing this, we reinforce love, light, hope, strength, faith, all the good things of this world, giving us personal freedom and peace.
I'm on chapter 5, the Fourth Agreement. My self-prescription for healing and personal growth is to read this book as often as needed.
“Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” – Don Miguel Ruiz
Next on my reading list, A Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz.